A CAREGIVER'S GUIDE TO WHAT MATTERS

Please click below buttons to learn more about the author's coming up interview schedule and for reports on past media appearences.

Coming Up >

Appearances >

Table of Contents

TABLE OF CONTENTS

CHAPTER ONE

The Oh Shit Moment

What Is a Proactive Approach?

Doctors Don’t Have the Calendar

Care Versus Cure

Tell The Children

What About Adult Children?

Resources

CHAPTER TWO

Ok, Now What?

It’s Still Their Life

Paperwork and Practicalities

Rally The Troops (Unless You Plan to Keep It Private)

Considerations and Common Worries

CHAPTER THREE

People Die The Way They Live

Personality Times Ten

The Mom Syndrome: That’s A Medical Term

Which is Harder? Slow or Fast?

CHAPTER FOUR

Smile at Me

What Can I Say?

Breathe

Laugh

Things Not To Say

What The Dying Want

To Ease Open Dialogue

CHAPTER FIVE

Caregiver 101

Stocking The Sickroom

Safety First for You and The Person

Use Good Body Mechanics

Bathing

TIP for Giving Regular Medication

When Giving Medication

Change of Watch TIP

Bedsores

For Someone Who Is Very Close to Leaving

Resources

CHAPTER SIX

Caring for The Caregiver

Taking Care of Your Body

Taking Care of Your Spirit

Keep Up Your Social Life

Keep a Journal

Enlisting Help Without Guilt

How to Know You Need More Help

What To Do

Resources

CHAPTER SEVEN

Food and The Casserole Brigade

Do’s And Don’t’s

When to Stop Feeding

The Dehydration Question

Sources

CHAPTER EIGHT

Drugs Are Good: Say Yes to Drugs

Clarifying The Pain to Inform The Physician

Dosage Is Only A Number: Different Strokes for Different Folks

A Word About Side Effects

CHAPTER NINE

When to Call In The Professionals

Many Caregivers Put off Calling Hospice Because They Think…

Hospice Facts

What You Should Know About Calling in Hospice

What Exactly IS Hospice?

Where Is Hospice Provided?

What Does Hospice Cover?

Hospice Co-Pay

Alzheimer’s Dementia, Debility, Oh My

Resources

CHAPTER TEN

How To Sit With The Actively Dying
Cold Hands Cold Feet
Yes, Virginia, They Can Hear You
The Face Tells All
Take A Breath
Do Not Lie In Bed Next To An Actively Dying Person
Anticipatory Grief AKA The Eeyore Syndrome
The Parade
Caregiver and Visitor TIPS

The Shift

The Smile

CHAPTER ELEVEN

Peace In The Stillness

CHAPTER TWELVE

Aftermath: The First Months

Don’t Stand On Ceremony

The Rest Is Silence – For A While